When you’re born, you don’t have the choice of who your family is, where you live, what you eat, what you watch, listen to, or activities you do. All of this is handed to you by the set of guardians God gives you, better known as your parents.
Since this is the case, good or bad, when we grow older it is very valuable and important to exercise the freedom to choose the people you want to be around. It is good to base your choice on what you want out of life and your strategic and personal plan to get and do those things.
Who You’re Around Is Who You Are
Unfortunately for many people, they settle for what was given to them in the beginning. Sure, we make some very good friends in our childhood. What happens often when we grow up is that circumstances can change and our best friend or close associates just don’t see the world the way we see the world.
Perhaps we’re blessed with a special skillset, or we get an opportunity to travel and experience other things and people that our familiars (family and friends) don’t and haven’t.
Maybe they don’t go through the transformation we have went through or are going through. This changes a lot of things, a lot of the relationship dynamics.
Maybe you had a chance to travel abroad or get into different school programs that allowed you to travel and experience different things. Their mindset may not be as broad as yours. They stick to the normal routine of your local city, local neighborhood and community and the ways that people think in those areas.
If you are trying to make it to a new success level in your life, you have to be mindful of who you commune with on a daily basis and who you are interacting with it. The reason is because who you’re around is who you are, or become!
If you are overweight or unhealthy do yourself a quick favor right now, take a paper and write out the top five people you are around or influenced by, either friendship or association, and see if they are unhealthy or overweight.
If you are pretty broke, meaning you have little to no money in your pockets and you are always borrowing, rushing here and rushing there to make payments, jot down the top five people who you are friends with or associate with on a daily basis; go write their names down now.
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What you may notice is that they also are in a similar financial situation as you are.
Revelations like these can make you run far away from those people, especially if you really have a good sense of what you want and know that these people absolutely don’t want those same things (or at least not portraying that desire).
The key is just to remember that these are friends and associates, so don’t cut them off, but illuminate your new brighter side. Still know that in order to elevate you have to make new associations and friendships with people who are moving in the direction or are already where you want to be.
Unfortunately, the Cleveland Cavaliers never won a championship (up til 2016), so in order for LeBron James to win he had the idea of learning from an organization that had won a championship before.
He left to go play with players who had championship mentality on their mine only! He was ridiculed for leaving, much like Kevin Durant was for leaving OKC for Golden State, and much like you may be when you set out to accomplish your new goals, but that decision was part of Lebron’s vision and what he wanted out of life.
If you are trying to win a championship in life, you need to associate with winners and the people who are going to help light a fire for your vision (in a positive way). Being around negative people or people who don’t know what they want in life, who do not make goals, and don’t have ambitions, will only leave you with all the things you do not want.
Be careful of the crew or cast members in your circle. It could be costing you your future!